IMAGINE LIVING DIFFERENTLY,
LEARNING, CREATING, GROWING ....
WITHOUT SCHOOLING.


Monday, 22 May 2017

Two Loops: How Systems Change

"When the forms of an old culture are dying, the new culture is created by a few people who are not afraid to be insecure." (Rudolf Bahro)

Whether we are thinking about systems of education, energy production or even politics, I found this perspective profoundly hopeful: TWO LOOPS: HOW SYSTEMS CHANGE

Sunday, 14 May 2017

Learn Free Conference 2017

The Learn Free conference is only a couple of weeks away. Organised by Christian Home Educators Warwickshire, and now in its sixth year, Learn Free is an encouraging day for anyone home educating or considering it, whether you would call yourself Christian or not. Last year, I was privileged to lead a workshop on Mentoring Self-Directed Learners, and this year I will be giving the keynote speech: FREE RANGE – A LIFE WITHOUT SCHOOL. At the bargain price of £8 a ticket, it would be great to see you there. For more information or to register, click HERE.

Saturday, 13 May 2017

Another SATs Week ....

It's the end of another SATs week. My third son would have sat them this week had he been in school. He would be in Year 6. But instead he has been enjoying learning at home, and in many other community contexts, throughout his primary years.

Seven years ago, when we began home educating, SATS were definitely a factor in our thinking. My voice at the time felt lonely, radical and a little bit crazy. In the last two years, there has been an increasing outcry on social media with organised parental movements putting pressure on the government to find another means of primary assessment.

It seems the SATs tests have become even more ridiculous in recent years, measuring children against standards they are not expected to attain. There was talk again this year about the possible scrapping of the tests but, whether or not that happens, nothing was decided soon enough to save this year's cohort.

Seven years ago, in January 2010, we took our sons out of school because we wanted a different kind of education for them. I know that sometimes home educators seem radical, and way out there on the fringe, but sometimes change just happens too slowly. It hasn't happened yet, and it hasn't happened fast enough that my own children would have been saved from a narrow curriculum and from all the pressures of our broken system. I know that some people think it is an 'opt out' to 'opt out' - that we ought to be fighting from within - but some children just need to be removed from a toxic system for the sake of their own mental health and wellbeing. This is true, sadly, for some teachers, too. And we are seeing more and more teachers leave the profession, with a crisis in teacher recruitment and retention which puts the future of the broken system into jeopardy anyway. My husband has worked for years on supply, and seldom does he walk into a fully staffed maths department - even in those schools deemed to be the 'better' ones in our locality. He observes everyday the conditions passing as education in our city schools.

If you are interested, here are the links to a few posts I have written about SATs over the years. My opinions have not changed.

Why I Choose to Boycott SATs (May 2012)

The Fundamental Problem with Testing (May 2016)

Is Missing a Day of School Damaging to a Child's Education? (May 2016)

The Nonsense of SATs (October 2010)

There is a great deal about SATs on my blog. For more, type 'SATs' into the search bar to the right hand side: Organic Ed.



Cracking the Reading Code

My smallest son is 5, and he has recently started to read for himself. It is truly a delightful thing to watch him begin to crack the reading code for himself, piecing his understanding together to sound out words he sees around him. At home, we are able to go slowly, at his pace. There is no rush, no pressure, no comparison. He tends to do little short bursts of these activities, and we stop as soon as he has had enough.

People sometimes ask me how children can learn to read by themselves and, the honest answer is, I don't know exactly how it happens. But, if a child is surrounded by a literate world, he or she will acquire the skills needed to thrive in that world. By that I mean, if we are prepared to read with our children, to support their learning and answer their questions, to encourage their efforts, they will learn. That is what they naturally want to do, to become competent and empowered.

We have many books around our home, from picture books loved from babyhood, to more advanced chapter books. We read together several times a day. His current favourites for me to read aloud to him include the Mog books, Roald Dahl and Rudyard Kipling's "Just So Stories", obviously stories far more advanced than he can yet read himself. Through these shared experiences, however, he knows that reading unlocks stories, and reading together from the youngest age fosters a love of story which can last a lifetime, and open a door into new worlds of wonder and imagination.

My smallest son is a digital native and, for some time, he has enjoyed the Reading Eggs programme on his brother's iPad, which has helped him with his letter sounds, and with beginning to put sounds and words together. However, his interest in reading for himself has definitely been running second to his interest in numbers, which have clearly been fascinating to him.

A few weeks ago, he asked me to write some labels for items around the house - sofa, window, bookshelf etc - and he stuck these labels around the house. I think this whole process of playing with words is important. He is clearly building on the concept that things have a corresponding written word associated with them, and this must be a precursor to reading. Recently we acquired some of the Oxford Reading Tree reading books, which he has begun to pick up and start reading. Sometimes at story time now, he asks to read to me before I read to him, but I don't force this if he doesn't want to. Sometimes he will just say he is too tired, and it is important just to keep it fun and to celebrate the success. He loves it when he manages to read successfully - albeit with a bit of help sometimes.

Alongside, the developing reading skills, he is beginning to write words more accurately by himself. He developed a series of characters the other day with simple names - Big Ben, Bad Bob, Big Jo - which he took pleasure in writing on to his pictures. We also have some Oxford Reading Tree common word cards, which correspond to the early reading books, and he has been getting those out to make his own sentences with. When he needs a word which isn't there, he will make his own word cards, and delight in making funny sentences and then reading them out to me.

Note that none of this is planned by me. It is child initiated learning. But I am strewing resources around, engaging with him in the process, supporting and encouraging his interest.

Simultaneous to this interest in cracking the reading code, my son seems interested in other codes, too ... the mathematical symbols for addition, subtraction, equals. He will play for ages with a calculator, and loves pressing the different buttons and seeing what numbers he can make. He is writing down mathematical problems and then reading these out to me. He will draw logos - Under Armour for example, as featured on his brother's tennis gear, another kind of symbol. And, most recently, he has been sitting beside me at the piano and asking me to teach him music. Today, since he opened the book and asked, I dove in and talked to him about the stave, the clefs, the time signature and semibreves and minims. Not only has he been talking about this since, and using this new vocabulary, but he wanted to write his own music for he and I to play together. He wrote out his own semibreve and minim shapes for me to play on piano, explaining, "This one should be played in the bass, and this in the treble," whilst he tapped out some accompanying percussion on his wooden loom (An 'instrument' he called the 'knocker'). He had thereby created a different type of communicative code which translated into music. It's fascinating to observe the growing web of understanding and I look forward to seeing how it develops.



Friday, 31 March 2017

On Diversity & What it Means to be British


Last weekend I was able to attend a day organised by The Centre for Personalised Education in Walsall looking at Alternative Educational Futures. There I heard Dr Rachel Sara Lewis speak about Radicalisation in Education. It was a moving and powerful talk. She spoke about the responsibility now given to schools and teachers - on top of all their other responsibilities - by the Prevent Strategy, and the dangers of criminalising young people for things they are not even aware of. She described how a culture that refers to young people as "the other" can actually lead to further isolation and risks of radicalisation. Radicalisation can be defined as "a deranged quest for identity". She spoke of a schooling system which neglects the individual and the right to develop one's own identity. She spoke about racism in schools as a black, British, Muslim, qualified teacher, home educating mother - with a doctorate. It was fascinating .... and challenging .... and thought provoking.

There followed an interesting talk by Dr Harriet Pattison considering post-internationalism, identity and the fundamental British values David Cameron spoke of, which were so quickly integrated into the National Curriculum. Do you know what they are? What do you think they should be? This in itself is an interesting question .... isn't it? Were we consulted? And would we agree - all of us - across lines of class, race and culture - on these shared values, which are quintessentially British?

Should you be in any doubt, according to the guidance from the DfE, the fundamental British values which schools should promote are:

Democracy
The rule of law
Individual liberty
Mutual respect for and tolerance of those with different faiths and beliefs

I was surprised that freedom if speech is not on the list, a freedom we have clearly seen slip away in recent years. Are there values you think ought to be on that list that are not?

How do we imagine schools are to impart these values? Does veiling certain children with suspicion, segregating, penalising and isolating them help foster the unity and tolerance we desire?

One of the things about the racist backlash after the EU Referendum was the surprise of the white liberal middle classes that such attitudes should exist in "their" Britain. Any person of colour in this country knows racism exists, lurking beneath the veneer of political correctness. My husband encounters it frequently in the classrooms he walks into as an Asian teacher. Dr Lewis encounters it frequently every time she is stopped in her car and questioned about her identity. Are such incidents surprising to those of us with white skin? I think one of the most fundamental of British values is our unwillingness to talk about uncomfortable subjects, to ignore the elephants in the room, to politely cover over any perceived offence. But our silence or our ignorance about these issues doesn't make them go away.

Interestingly, the list above includes individual liberty, and I am thankful for that. It is a liberty which means I can freely choose to home educate my children. But does this liberty extend into schools? Dr Lewis seemed to be implying not. Not when a girl can be taken aside and questioned in accordance with Prevent for choosing to wear hijab in her teens. Indeed, for home educators of different cultural backgrounds, enculturisation can be a strong argument for choosing to educate their children alternatively, to impart a positive self-identity and a sense of pride and happiness in being who they are, from where they're from, but British. Indeed, to impart these very British values we deem to hold so dear.

A few recent articles came to mind as I listened to Dr Lewis speak ....

1) Black American families take school into their own hands
I read this article about the growing number of African American families choosing to home educate, and was particularly struck by a comment from the mother featured who remembered her son telling her "Mom, I love being black. I just love the colour of my skin." She goes on to say, "a lot of children — especially African American children — don't grow up feeling that way about themselves." By failing to give children that sense of feeling good about themselves - about who they are - we could argue schools are failing.

2) Quarter of English state primary schools are "ethnically segregated"
One of the things I have noticed in our city in recent years is the opening of several new faith schools - one for Muslim girls, and one for Sikh children. Whilst we might agree that it is important to respond to calls from faith communities for appropriate schooling, I feel a sadness that other secondary schools in our city lose the diversity that these students would bring to mixed school communities. Of course, we can argue this about more established CofE and Catholic schools, too. And the government cannot be seen to allow the Christian schools, but not give the same privileges to those of other faiths. So, what solution? The sacred / secular divide such as is found in France to keep religion out of schools certainly doesn't seem to have helped community cohesion any more positively there.

3) How to defeat terrorists? True extremism
This article was published in the Guardian at the end of 2016. I read it then, and as a person of faith, was struck by what the article concludes: "The implication of the theologically illiterate Prevent strategy, for instance, is that if religious people were a bit less religious they would be a lot less dangerous ... As Jonathan Swift famously explained: “We have just enough religion to make us hate, but not enough to make us love one another.” Which is why I want religious people to be more extreme in their faith, not less; to put aside their own boiling inadequacy and to trust in God’s greatness and that he knows what he is doing."

If we consider home educating families of faith, or of ethnic diversity, why the need to shroud their motives with suspicion? Maybe what they want is to pour into their children enough love, enough self-belief, enough self-worth, enough radical faith, hope and, yes, in some cases, religion, that actually they would know who they are, where they come from, what their place is in the world, how and why to love their neighbour as themselves, to truly respect those of different faiths and beliefs and to demonstrate an individual liberty which is not threatened by the other, or by being 'other' but which dreams, as Martin Luther King so famously said, "that my four little children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the colour of their skin but by the content of their character."

UK National Champions

Yesterday, our family travelled down to Silverstone to support our eldest son in the F1 in Schools competition. The team he is a part of progressed through the regional rounds of the competition in the Autumn, and have been preparing themselves for the Nationals this week. Our son was recruited to the team not long after joining the engineering Academy in September. He was given the role of Design Engineer, and is the youngest on the team.

F1 in Schools is a fantastic piece of project based learning, which suits our son's learning style really well. The team have had to gather sponsorship, create & build a team image, design and produce and test a racing car using CAD (computer aided design) with the help of their sponsors, set up a display stand, give a verbal presentation, race the car & then endure the scrutiny of the judges' cross-examining. The specifications are very precise, filling 30 pages, and it is important not to break any of the critical regulations. Our son has loved the project, and worked hard at it. This term, particularly, it has been the one thing which has really kept him going into school because he enjoys it, and I am thankful to their mentor who, following a career in industry, voluntarily gives his time to support young engineers at the Academy.

Yesterday, we watched their team, Academy Racing, win the national knockout competition. The previous day they had already won the contest for the fastest car. At the awards ceremony in the later afternoon, they received these two awards with pride. Then we watched as many of the other fantastic teams received awards for Team Image, Best Verbal Presentation, Best Engineered Car, Research and Development etc. Tension mounted as the time drew near to hear which teams had won third, second and first place to be UK National Champions and compete in the world finals this autumn in Kuala Lumpur. Although we knew they had a chance, somehow we couldn't imagine that they would actually have won ..... But they did! We couldn't believe it. It was very exciting. I felt super proud of them all, and my heart delights in seeing my son succeeding in a field he is - and has always been - passionate and enthusiastic about.

You can watch the Awards Ceremony here; from 55-57 minutes, you can see Academy Racing awarded knockout competition winners and fastest car. And then at 1:23.00, they are crowned national champions: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=882M_QlIOnw

Coincidentally, I saw this article in the press today: Teach 'problem solving' to produce engineers, schools urged. How is it that I, as someone who is not remotely interested in engineering, have managed to raise an exceptional engineer - outside of school? Interestingly, this article quotes the Royal Academy of Engineering as saying, "A focus on "playful experimentation" could boost learning throughout UK schools". The article also says three pilot schemes to unite the worlds of education and engineering, prompted teachers "to step back and allow the children to experiment and make mistakes." Allowing children to play, experiment, tinker, make mistakes, figure things out for themselves, exceed our expectations, reach beyond us - and to find their own unique gifts and passions - is what independent learning is all about.






Saturday, 18 March 2017

Emergent Writing 4

Yesterday, we were up on the community allotment planting seeds. My youngest son took great delight in planting a couple of trays to take home to be his very own. He chose to plant peas and spring onions. As we plant, we label the seed trays by writing what we have planted on lollipop sticks and dating them. So, smallest son's trays, too, needed to be duly labeled. He carefully copied the date (17/3) and then asked me to write the words 'Pea' and 'Onion' for him to copy carefully on to his sticks. Writing with real meaning and purpose, and all on his own initiative .....



Monday, 27 February 2017

New Topic

With perfect timing for a new half term, and the changing season, my smallest son was full of questions about seeds today ....

"What are seeds?" "Where do they come from?" "What are seeds made of?" "How are they made?" "Who made them?"

He was not satisfied with simple answers ... We went on to youtube and found videos about germination, plant reproduction, photosynthesis, time lapse seed growth ... some of which he watched several times. We got out a book we have about a seed growing ... I shall have to look for more.

This is the way a new topic emerges. As we looked at the plant embryo within the seed, our conversation moved on to human embryos, and we compared some images ... Mighty oaks from tiny acorns grow. It was such a rich discussion, and now we shall be able to focus our enquiries, activities, reading and excursions around this new area of fascination, building the web of understanding, starting with the child's questions.


Emergent Writing 3

My littlest son's best friend is 8, and when he came to play recently, the two of them had a games contest. They played various board games and his friend made a score sheet to record who won each game - first to 5. Inspired, my little son, who is almost 5, wanted to play games with me the other day, and he made a score sheet in the same way as he had seen his friend doing. When children have friends of different ages, they learn so much from one another. And it was interesting to see my son using written code to record meaningful information. You probably can't make sense of what he has written, but he wrote the initial letters of his name and mine, and then numbers 1-5 beside our names as we won games respectively. His squiggles made complete sense to him, and because I offered no comment, criticism or correction, he was perfectly satisfied with what he had written. I have every confidence that, in time, with exposure to letters and numbers, he will perfect his ability to write accurately. But I love to see his developing understanding of writing to convey meaning, and his active participation in this process of communication.


(It's upside down!)

Free Range to Battery Farmed

First day back after the half term break, and my eldest boy looked thoroughly miserable. It was hard work cajoling him into school this morning. He has begun to refer to it as 'the prison' in spite of the Principal's suggested steps to help accommodate his desire for more independent learning. I think our son knows as well as anyone that these concessions do not really amount to much because, at the end of the day, the Academy has to be 'teaching' him in order to be seen to be fulfilling their professional duties. In spite of the fact that just two generations ago, young people of fourteen were out at work, making their independent way in the world, we now insist on keeping our young people 'protected' in the confines of school until age 18. Whilst this may keep the government's unemployment figures down, I do not believe it helps our young people to develop into creative, resilient, self-motivated, hopeful individuals. My son's academy has no outdoor space, and we have come to realise this is a problem for him. He needs to be outside at some times during the day, just for a bit of space and fresh air. You wouldn't think that is too much to ask. However, his request to be allowed to leave the premises during break or lunchtime (with parental permission) can only be granted if a parent can collect him and take responsibility for him. He knows this is unlikely to be workable, the breaks are so short. And so he feels confined and imprisoned. I know he feels he is wasting his time, that he can work so much more productively outside of school. And although he is communicating his needs clearly, no-one is really listening. Except that I am. And because of my own beliefs, I am becoming less convinced that the positive reasons to be in there are enough to keep him there. As I listen to him, this picture from one of Jamie Oliver's cookbooks comes to my mind .... I mean, if you are a chicken who only knows the battery cage, you don't know any different; you wouldn't ask any questions, the cage is just the way life is. But if you are used to being free range, what on earth would you make of the cage and the overcrowding, the smell and the suffocating monotony? Wouldn't you long for the great outdoors, too, and those happy days you spent scuffling around in the earth in the fresh air? Lovely fresh eggs were then just a natural product of your lifestyle. Now, you are assessed by the number and size of your eggs; it seems a nonsense ... How can you produce eggs of quality in the confined environment of the cage? Everyone knows free range eggs taste better!

What if they spend their whole childhood playing?

What if they spend their whole childhood playing?
So what if they did?


Unschooling

I know it is hard for people to imagine how an unschooling morning looks, so here is how our day looks so far ....

My foodie boy has already cooked himself a delicious apple pancake for breakfast. He saw the apples, decided what he wanted, looked up the recipe, cooked and cleaned up independently. I did get a taste, and it was yummy!....


Now he has gone outside to work on a guitar he is sanding down to recondition ... In the fresh air ... This is his own project work ...


His brother has chosen to spend some time reading his latest book about Wimbledon ... He is mad keen on all things tennis related ...


And my youngest son is working on Maths Seeds on the iPad, learning about subtraction with the help of a cookie-eating gremlin!


This is how we roll .... A quiet few minutes, time for a nice cup of tea methinks.

Friday, 10 February 2017

Beyond Limits

My 4-year-old writing his book ....
I love the fact he sees no limits to the possibilities of his own abilities ....


Difficulties and Encouragements


We had some difficulties at the beginning of this week with my eldest son not wanting to go in to school. On Tuesday morning, this prompted me to phone in and ask for an appointment as soon as possible with the Principal. I was so pleased I did. My husband and I saw him yesterday, and I couldn't have asked for a better meeting.

It was interesting to hear his perspective and there was a mutual respect to our conversation. He expressed his frustration at how he has to compromise on vision to accommodate such a variety of learners, and of course to 'tick the boxes' required by the system. But he expressed such great knowledge of our son, and an appreciation for the type of learner that he is. I was rather bold and handed him our son's ideal timetable, which involves a lot of independent study time. And rather than dismissing it, he seemed fascinated and said he would enjoy the challenge of trying to provide more opportunities for our son to work in the ways he prefers. It was such a relief and encouragement to me. Of course, that doesn't mean all is well ... But I did feel heard, and we have a conversation now upon which we can build. It is a relief to feel we are not alone in trying to meet our son's needs. There are so many good opportunities the Academy is giving him, F1 in Schools being one, I would be very reluctant for him to come out again. But, at the same time, we were able to say to the Principal, if the price for good GCSE grades is our son's mental health or the quashing of the quirky, curious, independent learner that he is, then we believe that is a price too high to pay.

It was interesting having him out again on Tuesday. I noticed he enjoyed being with his brothers. He must miss them. He even wanted to spend some time with his smallest brother. He is so busy nowadays that he doesn't get as much opportunity to interact with him. I also noticed that he wanted to be outside. All our boys love to be outside, and it reminds me that we tend to require our children to spend most of their time cooped up indoors. As I said to the Principal, our eldest must feel no less cooped up than a free range chicken put into a battery farm! I honestly believe we all need far more time in the fresh air and outdoors interacting with nature for our mental health and wellbeing.

The Principal asked our son to write a profile for all his teachers describing his background, his projects, what motivates him and what doesn't. He is rising to the challenge and is planning a short, accompanying vlog. He was working on it quite late into yesterday evening, and it is interesting to see what he writes. Perhaps, with his permission, I might share it here once it is complete.


Saturday, 4 February 2017

Carol Black: Alternatives to Schooling

Carol Black is an education analyst, television producer, and director of the film Schooling the World. This is her plenary talk at the Economics of Happiness conference, held in Portland, Oregon, in February 2015. The conference was organized by Local Futures, a non-profit organization that has been promoting a shift from global to local for nearly 40 years. For more information about the conference or Local Futures' work, go to localfutures.org

https://vimeo.com/126183982


Friday, 3 February 2017

Busy, busy ....

One of the lovely things about home educating is that we can enjoy a much slower pace of life. I certainly do not miss the manic mornings from the boys' short schooling experience, the mad rush to get everyone out of the door on time with everything needed for the day. Those days were characterised by a constant feeling of being in a hurry, of never having enough time to get everything done that needed to be done. Life with four children can still feel a bit like that, but it is not the same. Busy weeks like this one feel rushed, and I have to admit, I am no longer used to it. I don't like it.

Monday was my third son's birthday, so the night before, I was busy getting organised for that. He had a sleepover at the weekend with his oldest and most treasured friend as well as a family meal out with his grandparents,too. On Monday, my parents visited again, and, later in the day, he had a friend over for dinner and a movie. Thankfully, I was relieved of cake duty this year as he opted for his Dad's speciality tiramisu instead!


Tuesday was a quieter day, but we had to catch up on all we hadn't done on Monday - as well as preparing for Wednesday! Monday is usually our chores afternoon, so we had to get the house tidied and cleaned on Tuesday this week. And there was shopping to be done and organisation for a manic Wednesday. My eldest son had also managed to hurt his ankle scooting which became an excuse for not wanting to go to school. This led to conversations with the school about his learning which added pressure to an already busy week.

Wednesday morning began with a phone call to the doctor as the ankle, bruised and swollen, was a cause for concern. Appointment to see the doctor squeezed in during the afternoon. Meanwhile, my usual Wednesday morning international women's group saw the house fill with women and preschoolers for a lively games morning - and much laughter.


After a rushed lunch, and a flying visit from my Dad to collect youngest grandson for an overnight stay, the other two boys and I were off to our weekly home ed sports meet-up, which I think is still the highlight of their week. They played ultimate frisbee with a whole bunch of home schooled kids of all ages in the mild February air whilst a friend and I took a walk. Dropped our friends home, and rushed back with two extra kids on board to meet another friend for our human anatomy co-op. It was my turn to lead our workshop on the muscular system, including our attempts to construct a model arm illustrating antagonistic muscle action. Meanwhile youngest son is having a lovely time at his grandparents' learning about colossal squids and producing some lovely paintings of underwater creatures. My husband took our oldest son to the doctor and, by evening, I was too tired to make my monthly crafting session with friends.


Thursday, it was quiet in the morning with my smallest son away. The other two boys and I did some readalouds and they then got on with their work whilst I had a cuppa and chat with a friend of mine who is considering educational options for her daughter and wanted to pick my brains. Hurried lunch again, then off we rushed to see Stomp! - the West End production at our local Arts Centre. I had organised a group booking for home ed families at schools' rate. This is a show I have long wanted to see, so I leapt at the opportunity to get reasonable tickets. It was a fantastic performance - so full of energy, and real boy appeal. My third son, in particular, loved it. My 13-year-old is at the age where everything seems to be "Meh" (shrug)!


From the theatre, we rushed to a meeting at eldest son's school about his learning style (!) Thursday evening, the two middle boys were on a night hike with their scout group, and eldest went off to his church home group. My Dad and brother arrived with littlest son returned and popped straight into bed.

This morning, we were off again to a home ed group we attend once every two months about half an hour's drive away. Several things caused us to arrive slightly late - including a petrol stop and a traffic jam! - but it was a great session on animation. Even my 4-year-old was able to create under-sea characters with plasticene and playdough and animate a short film on the iPad with his older brother's help. He also made a zoetrope.


After the session finished and we had had our lunch, we drove straight over to the boys' friends, dropping one and picking up another. Back at home, another friend joined us, so all the boys had 'friend time' this afternoon.


Then it was off to church youth where all the parents congregate and children are returned. Second son is on a sleepover tonight .... Three are home now, one in bed already .... Phew! These home ed families. All they do is sit at home all day. And, goodness, how on earth do they socialise?? I am ready for a quieter weekend ....

Different Values

Writing about my eldest son's recent struggles at school, I mentioned the clash of cultures, perhaps inevitable, between the unschooling he has enjoyed until now, and the culture of the system. I have realised this week that the clash is actually a clash of values, values being the vehicle by which a culture is conveyed ....

We had another meeting with the school this week, in which a couple of afternoon periods have been offered to my son as independent study time. He would like a lot more such time, but he seemed pleased with this first step ... "It's a start, Mum, it's a start," he said. And there is a renewed interest in studying again in the evenings, for his own sake, not because he has been told to. This is good, because I was afraid we were heading for school refusal had there been no compromise reached.

The values that are repeatedly heard from school, though, are not values our family accepts. They are values such as, "It is all about qualifications" ... "What you want to be achieving is those A stars across the board" ... "Qualifications are what will open the doors of opportunity". Schools are, by the language they speak, exam factories. And I accept that, in a way, we are using them - accepting that to be what they are. They are a means to an end, a means of gaining the precious bits of paper our society deems so important.

But, actually, the values imparted in our schooling system are not true. Life is not all about qualifications. What you want to be achieving might not be A stars across the board ... In fact, for many, this is not even possible or realistic ... leaving too many young people feeling like failures. Qualifications are not what will open the doors of opportunity. Not necessarily. It is a house of cards built on a foundation of untruths.

When the light went out in my son's eyes seven years ago, and we made the radical decision to remove our boys from the school system, it was because the values of the system did not sit right with us. In our home educating, I wanted to promote different values and to build on a different foundation. First of all, these values come from my Christian faith, which says that we are each created in the image of God. Therein lies our worth and value. It is not something to be earned or worked for. It is a grace-given truth, not dependent upon our achievements, grades or qualifications. So my vision for education is founded on the unique personhood of each child, and education needs to be respectful of that unique individual. My vision at home would be to nurture my children to be the unique individuals that God has created them to be. This is worlds apart from the values our school system currently purports. Worlds apart. No wonder I struggle to communicate the difficulties.

You see, whilst the school wants the A stars, we want our son to continue to be the unique, independent, quirky, experimentative, inventive, creative individual I have raised him to be, someone who doesn't just accept what he is told, but who questions, explores, pushes boundaries. I have spent seven years encouraging and nurturing such creative, intrinsically-motivated innovation in my boy. And if the price to pay for those A stars is all that we have worked for, then that will be too high a price to pay. Because, in my understanding, the qualities I see in him are more valuable than a bunch of A-grades, which were never our end goal anyway.

How about you? You might have a different belief system from me .... but what are your values? What is your vision for your children's education? Is it compatible with what is happening in our schools? Such questions are important, for they form the foundations of our educational choices ... if we take the time to stop, and consider and to ask.

"The starting point for all our thinking was the apparently revolutionary idea that a child is a person, worthy of full respect as a human being. “ (Daniel Greenberg, Co-founder of Sudbury Valley School)

Monday, 30 January 2017

Isaac Newton's House


One of the absolute best things about home educating is being able to take trips which fit in with what we are learning. This kind of experiential adventure really brings learning to life and makes all those historical facts and figures so much more memorable. My middle two boys and I are reading through the history of science at the moment, and our most recent chapter was all about Isaac Newton. The house where Isaac was born - Woolsthorpe Manor - is only about an hour and twenty minutes drive from us, so one freezing cold morning last week, we set out to explore.


Oh, I should let you in on another secret ... on weekdays during school termtimes, such places are VERY quiet - Perfect for the introverts among us! ;) We had a guided tour of the house - all to ourselves - with a lovely guide who made the visit engaging for the boys and asked them lots of questions. We will always remember where phrases like "Sleep tight", "Tie the knot" and "Costing an arm and a leg" come from, and we will remember looking from what was Isaac's bedroom window upon the now infamous apple tree in the orchard below.


We enjoyed exploring the science centre and envisaging some of the scientific ideas we had been reading about. There was a lot of opportunity to explore and play - and we had the place to ourselves. Well worth the drive!


Pressure mounting for 5 year olds

There are times when I do wonder whether I have made the right decision home educating my sons, but when I read blog posts like this one, I am so glad I took them out of school.

"In his first year and half in school, my son has gone from being a vibrant confident boy, to now feeling that he’s not good enough, he’s not smart enough, he’s too stupid. He’s anxious that he’s always getting it wrong. He’s terrified of being put back a year and descends into tears when he confuses writing a ‘b’ and a ‘d’. The targets that the government are setting are also making some teachers look out for learning difficulties and disabilities that may not even be there. We are beginning to lose sight of the fact that these children are only five. They are not stupid, lazy, naughty or with an undiagnosed difficulty. They are simply not emotionally or physically ready for this pressure."

Little boys beginning big school

"When boys feel emotionally vulnerable –– as they do when they struggle with the academic requirements of their first year of big school –— they tend to have a default setting that takes them straight through to anger, which is a very acceptable warrior emotion but often not acceptable in everyday settings, especially school. Feeling vulnerable, sad, bored, unhappy, confused, uncertain of what is required of him or a failure often is expressed through anger and often in aggressive acting out behaviour. The stronger a boy feels emotionally connected to his adult allies, the safer his emotional world becomes and the better his behaviour will be.”

An interesting article by Maggie Dent on boys starting school .... Read it by clicking HERE.


Struggles at School

It was inevitable that, like a clash of cultures, struggles at school would emerge. My son, aged 15, ever the independent learner, is not enjoying the classroom. He finds it frustrating how much time is wasted due to poor behaviour, and by having to move at the pace of the whole group. He wants to get on, to dig deeper, to work independently. He wants the teachers just to show him where he is headed and then leave him alone to get on with it. And what is wrong with that? Surely these are the kind of learners we want .... aren't they?

I have emailed the Principal .... I am hopeful we can find some sort of happy compromise. But what if we can't? I feel anxious.

When I was at sixth form, our timetabled lessons were pretty sparse. Between lectures, we were free to go home, to study at college or just to hang out with our friends. We were free. We managed our own time. I loved it. I don't think, even at sixth form, it is this way anymore. Why is there the need to constantly monitor our young people? It betrays such a lack of trust in their own ability to drive their own learning; it is frustrating.

My son wants a space where he can sit and just get on with his work quietly. Should this be too much to ask of a modern school? The teachers express concern that he would rather work alone than in the classroom ... But we are not talking about an unwillingness to collaborate, or an inability to work in a team ... He loves collaborative learning and, this week, has proved by his participation in the F1 in Schools regional competition that he is perfectly able to work in a team. F1 in Schools has been such a highlight for him. He is the Design Engineer, the only Year 10 student on the team, and he loves this kind of project based learning. Loves it.

But he sees so much of the time in the classroom as a waste of his time; time he could be spending so much more productively. He is eager to learn, wants to do well, wants to ask questions and to dig deep into the material. Why is his style of learning not accommodated? Rather he is told not to work so hard to get ahead .... basically to sit down and shut up, just to blend in. Why do we think this is good enough? Why do we set the ceiling so low?